Wednesday, January 1, 2014

New Year, Same Me except...








I must say that 2013 was not my worst year. I have a lot to be thankful for. I don't want to set my expectations for 2014 too high, because life happens. We face loss, joy, sorrows, make and lose friends and the whole cycle. It's not something you can choose.
In 2014 I don't think I'll do all the goals I've set for myself, but I will commit to being less critical and more kind to myself. I'll accept that some choices will be good, others will be bad and that makes for a lot of mistakes.
Mistakes aren't a bad thing. We only fear mistakes because it signals failure in our brains. The only way to fail is to not try. It's quite easy to be on the sidelines saying, shoulda, coulda, woulda, but being in the actual game is where the action is. I'm selling myself short by not trying to fail more, because if I don't accept failing I will never try. The first time won't be perfect, and the second may not either, but that would be a lot better than wondering. As cliche as it seems, most people stop trying because of the fear they work up in their heads. What if you do approach that someone you are attracted to? What if you apply for the job you think you don't qualify for? If pride is the only thing holding you back, what's the point of ever taking charge of your own destiny? Thinking that if it doesn't come to you, then it won't happen is a set up for not creating a lot more opportunities good and bad, but ultimate learning experiences. It takes two hands to clap.