Monday, June 14, 2010

How to bounce back from a bad day!

Have you ever had one of those days you just wanted to go to sleep and wake up in a month?  Where the only call you can make is to 1-800-NOW-WHAT.  That was me today.  Ctrl+Alt+Dlt = EPIC FAIL!! It started when I got to work, and hasn't ended yet.  Thank God for blogs! I am not going to write what went wrong, we all have bad days, and I'm about solutions.  I have co-workers who will "fish."  Rather than go directly to the source of  butt hurt  feelings, they go to everyone else and tell the story of how they were "wronged."  *shakes fist in the air* 
In my experience, 80% of problems were a result of miscommunication.  Whether it was direct, indirect, or non verbal, it happens.  I loath confrontation, I've taken courses but still don't like it, but it's healthier to say, "Hey, what's going on..." and know you put in an honest effort than to carry a grudge.  Holding on to people over time gets heavy and unhealthy.  Let them go!  So, what to do?
*insert couch, lay down, and let's begin*

Identify the source of the bad feelings?  Are you depressed? Argument? Boss on your back?

  1. Write your feelings out.  Talking helps, but acknowledge your hurt and put the writing away.
  2. Do something!  Take a walk, read a book or gossip mag, rent a comedy, anything to distract you.
  3. Go back to what you wrote and determine if there is anything you can do.  You cannot control people, places or things, but you are entitled to defend yourself against mean spiritedness.
  4. Let it go!  Imagine how that person feels.  Hurt people, hurt people.  If their life was so good, they would need to bring you down.  I've been on both sides and outgrew being jealous. 
  5. Write a list of things that are good in your life, things if they were gone tomorrow you'd miss. 
  6. Make a list of your dream life down to the place you live, your appearance, the atmosphere etc.
  7. Plan a way to make your dreams real.  Even if you don't try, I guarantee you will not regret not trying years on from now.
  8. Cry, hug someone, play with a child or animal, take photos of things around you.
  9. Indulge!  Give in to something decadent.  Book a trip, get in the car and drive, order sushi and listen to a foreign radio station and pretend you're in that country.
Just keep in mind:  This is not forever.  Nothing lasts forever in terms of emotions.  Feelings aren't facts, they are fluid and change.  Underneath your unhappiness there is a story of pain and it wants out.  Talking, writing, and having a trusted person to talk to is good if it's something personal.  People are human and don't trust everyone with your personals, they may mean well but...yep, so protect yourself.  Prevention is key to keeping a good friend.  The last thing you want is to have a row and that "incident" get thrown in your face, that's what family's for.


(If you don't treat/love you who will? Me!)




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